A question from the left field. More of a Quora topic maybe. How different would your life be if you weren't married?
I ask because I realised I would have a very different lifestyle if there wasn't someone else in my life (actually, that's possibly a better question than just married, if there were an a.n.other)
My place would be a tip (in comparison) my diet would be crap, I'd never think about shopping lists let alone vacuuming or cleaning the bathroom. Those things would get done but much less regularly - they're just not a priority for me. I guess that's a salient word, we have different priorities. Given free rein, I'd have a more hedonistic existence of wanton liberty... or some such.
This isn't a whinge BTW. I'm not secretly wanting a divorce. Just an acknowledgement of how different I'd live on a day-to-day basis were I single. There's pluses and minuses obviously and it's always a compromise, for us both. But it is hard to escape the feeling that this home of ours is more hers than mine. I don't care as such but I do see it.
Edit: I've just had a little stroll around the garden, with my mug of coffee. The garden's 'mine'. It's were I exercise control (with consultation). My wife, whilst being a plant person, is not keen on the graft of gardening, landscaping, etc nor the actual maintenance required. I guess we've effected an affective division of labour!
I ask because I realised I would have a very different lifestyle if there wasn't someone else in my life (actually, that's possibly a better question than just married, if there were an a.n.other)
My place would be a tip (in comparison) my diet would be crap, I'd never think about shopping lists let alone vacuuming or cleaning the bathroom. Those things would get done but much less regularly - they're just not a priority for me. I guess that's a salient word, we have different priorities. Given free rein, I'd have a more hedonistic existence of wanton liberty... or some such.
This isn't a whinge BTW. I'm not secretly wanting a divorce. Just an acknowledgement of how different I'd live on a day-to-day basis were I single. There's pluses and minuses obviously and it's always a compromise, for us both. But it is hard to escape the feeling that this home of ours is more hers than mine. I don't care as such but I do see it.
Edit: I've just had a little stroll around the garden, with my mug of coffee. The garden's 'mine'. It's were I exercise control (with consultation). My wife, whilst being a plant person, is not keen on the graft of gardening, landscaping, etc nor the actual maintenance required. I guess we've effected an affective division of labour!
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